I am too old.

I created this belief about myself about 10 years ago. After I got divorced in 2011, I thought my life was over. I was overcome with guilt and shame because I equated my failed marriage as my identity as a failure. I let it define me. My whole life turned upside down. As a Korean-American woman, my mom was grooming me to be a good wife from a very young age. Marriage is a huge right of passage in the Korean culture, especially for women so when I wasn’t successful at the one thing I was supposed to do right - it crushed me. I became ashamed at my core.

Years later as I began to recreate my life, one thing that I kept saying to myself and others was “I’m too old or I’m old.” I would say it jokingly and seriously. I didn’t realize how much it was limiting me until earlier this year. I was doing some personal development work at a conference and was asked to think about my limiting beliefs and I couldn’t think of any at first because I’ve been doing this work for many years and thought I had worked through all of them. How silly of me! I started thinking about what is the reason I haven’t been doing some of the things that I’ve wanted to do deep in my heart, and it came to me ... because I’m too old! The more I thought about it, the more I realized that I have been saying this for 10 YEARS! Wow, to think about the amount of things that I haven’t been doing over the past 10 years because I’ve been thinking I am too old is mindblowing. So that day, I created a new belief. The belief that I am just getting started and I have a lot to give. I am now living into this new belief and it’s been life changing for my self and others.

This is the 3rd time I have started a blog, the 4th time I’ve attempted to brand myself and I think I’ve finally got it right. I’m so clear on my purpose and I am excited to share my gifts with you and to be of service. And I couldn’t have done it with the belief that I am too old!

Belief systems are powerful. They create our reality. Beliefs are simply a thought that you believe to be true. And you can change your mind and your beliefs any time you want. The hard thing with beliefs is that they can feel so real and they can trick you into thinking that it can’t be any other way. But trust me, it can be anything you want!

Here are a few other old beliefs that I’ve changed over time:

I used to believe that I am what happened to me. I now believe that I am who I choose to become.

I used to believe that I didn’t need anyone. I now believe that people are my life line.

I used to believe that I don’t have any talents or skills. I now believe that I have a lot to give.

I used to believe that I am a failure. I now believe that anything is possible.

Even before starting this blog post today, I thought I am a horrible writer. I quickly replaced that with I have a story to share.

You are what you believe yourself to be. So be careful to review your beliefs system often. They can either empower you or destroy you. Either way, you choose it.

“Align your personality with your purpose and no one can touch you.” - Oprah Winfrey

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Here to serve,

Mishelle